The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Govert — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 07:33:07 GMT

In my personal experience chaos inside me shows itself in things piling up outside of me. It is a sign of internal overload. I also recognize it as a personality trait i have in the enneagram. I have learned to empathize with myself and take the sign seriously. Not to blame myself but to respect myself for the need of rest, peace and support that i have. When i understand this about myself i have a strategy i can follow and can get direction back in my life.I can take a break and do something about it. I thoroughly enjoy it when i have managed the situation with respect for myself and others. Through this i have also learned to prepare for situations in my life that i experience as chaotic. When i travel i start packing my suitcase a week in advance. I know exactly where my passport is and have no last minute panic attack. This gives me the peace to also leave the house behind in a way that i will enjoy my return. I have been studying Non Violent Communication for a while now and it has very practical applications to me. Have a look at www.cnvc.org if you like.

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Blackberry_Briar — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 03:35:23 GMT

I have a friend that I just met about three years ago who has MS. Right off the bat I could see that I would have to draw the line in the future. She thought nothing of calling me on the phone and trekking down tangent after tanget when she had initially called just to tell me she had some plants for me to dig up and that she was planning out a part of her garden. She would initially do this for FOUR HOURS at a time (she lives less than 3 miles from also). After I hung up the phone I looked at the amount of time (4+ hours) and called her right back and told her that last call was four hours. She said that, well, she gets a little side-tracked!?!!?!? I told her she would have to do that on her own time and that if she called and I said 'just give me the facts, I have to go', that I would remind her one time and then say 'ok, I have to go, goodbye'.

She still needs reeling in from time to time but I have never spent anywhere near 4 hours (or even an hour) on the phone with her since. I also make sure that if I am going to come pick stuff up at her house, drop things off or get her shopping list, that it is done before I get there...otherwise I would be waiting for over 2 hours (or more!).

You just have to draw up the perameters, decide the amount of leeway you will give (if any) and present it as being the law. You can't feel bad about it if it is negatively affecting your life and your family.

Heidi

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Blackberry_Briar — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 03:25:37 GMT

When I was a child and young adult the biggest problem in my getting work done in a library was the library itself. If I had to look something up - that was the end of it. I would read the dictionary cover to cover, the entire encyclopaedia that my research topic was found in and heaven forbid I walked past the fiction section.

I stayed out of libraries for many years after I left college in an effort to get back some of my time. It has worked I can walk through the library now and only come out with books for my kids in the span of one hour (I have 3 girls under 7 and a 12 yr old boy), and only have a mild case of withdrawal.

Heidi

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Birdlady — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 06:14:03 GMT

My family is my HUGE energy sucker. I have cut all ties with my grandmother which has helped my life in more ways than I can even list here. My Dad and Mom both got ear fulls a few months ago and they have been more respectful to me as a human. They used to walk all over me or think that I was on call 24/7. I finally put that crap to an end and it really has made me feel better. I bet there are others here who have to answer to their families 24/7. That is NOT normal!

#6 is the big culprit for me now.

I check out these boards, the Ron Paul forums, the WoW forums, Infowars, prisonplanet, and then the regular propaganda news. LOL

Yeah information overload. My brain wants to learn more everyday and keep up with business related information.

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

seg — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 16:31:49 GMT

These are great articles and you never really realize your shortcomings until you read articles like these, disorganised, trying to live your life to impress or please others. Over the years i have gotten better and i don't really care now what other people think as i used to, or try to live my life to please others. I simply try to do the very best with whatever little i have and take care of me and my own, i realized you can't please everyone so you gotta please yourself first and foremost and if that's good for others then that's an extra perk. As someone said to me many years ago " think less of others and you'd have more time to think of yourself, quite true i must say...

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

mmc88121 — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 00:03:46 GMT

Number 7 is the most important yet the hardest to do. Sometimes being a good example is the best advice you can give.

Mary

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Phantom O Banjo — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:27:23 GMT

7 is a hard one. Trying to help those you care about but they don't respect the help offered. They continue to make poor choices and watching them spin in place.

re: The 7 Energy Sinkholes (and How to Avoid Them)

Patty D — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:00:35 GMT

Ahh I've fallen into #6 (information addiction) big time since I found mercola and the multiple other alternative sites I now frequent. It does cause stress in that it fosters paranoia and fear, ie knowing there are changes that ideally I should be making but for various reasons, usually financial, can't. This is a great article with some good advice.