Profound Thoughts About Relationships And Patience

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Traveling Man — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 16:12:59 GMT

When I first started dating we made a pact.

We'll have a pleasant relationship, or none at all, IT'S YOUR CHOICE.

We both had permission to say this to each other when things got testy.

This enabled us to take a step back and have patience with each other.

The ego is looking for a fight every single day. Remebering this saying put the ego away.

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T101 — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 15:17:53 GMT

I find the principles in this article have been around for a long time, re-emerging under new names. I try to use this approach in dealing with people from all walks of life, however, IT DOES NOT WORK with people with abusive emotional issues. I have composed a letter using the "For a long time..." in order to promote healthy emotional boundries. This is one of the most courageous stands I have taken and I know the response is not in my hands,but, I feel it is better to build bridges rather than dig chasims. (Taken from Breakthrough Program: What strengthens emotional boundaries - a) Right to say no and the freedom to say yes. b) Respect for feelings. c) Support for our personal process. d) Acceptance of differences. e) Enhanceness of our uniqueness. f) Permission for expression. ) May we all work together to make this world a better place.

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jonallen — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 13:17:17 GMT

An important part of any therapy is understanding that although it is greatly influenced by attitude and the volatility of emotions, that does not make it any less legitimate or essential to making progress.

The fundamental principle of mind/body duality is that the mind can generate a physical condition, just as a physical condition can disorder the mind.

A very real and fundamental difference between the sexes is that a male brain is more scrambled and compartmentalized than a female brain. This has been observed to result from elevated androgens in the womb, and occasionally a female fetus is exposed to some of this, resulting in a girl with much more boyish thought patterns.

These girls often grow up to become innovative thinkers in mathematics and/or science, such as Amelie Emmy Noether, the creator of axiomatic algebra, Maria Slodowska Curie, the atomic pioneer or Gertrude Belle Elion, the pioneer of immuno-suppressive medicine.

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DizzyIzzy1 — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 23:11:01 GMT

Patience is a virtue

Posess it if you can

Often found in women

Never found in man!

;-)

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chubby — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 12:49:00 GMT

When it comes to the marriage relationship I think the most CRUCIL bit of info is understanding the basic difference in the way men and women think and express themselves --- which is directly related to the way in which our brains are WIRED --- MEN are wired to use primarily the LEFT side of the brain which ic the LOGIC side ---- WOMEN on the other hand are wired to use BOTH sides together --- the LOGIC side and the RIGHT side which is the CREATIVE side --- this explains why men tend too be PROBLEM SOLVERS and MAP READERS ---- while women tend to TALK AROUND PROBLEMS and INJECT EMOTIONS into them --- ( which can drive males whacko and TEST THEIR PATIENCE ) ---- but women can also come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to problems that may elude LOGICAL MALES ------- and unfortuneately some women can use their DUAL brain talents to CONFUSE and CONTROL males --- just as some males can use their superior strength and MALE SEX DRIVE to dominate and control women --- those are of course the " extremes " of gender differences --- but in a "NORMAL " relationship --- just understanding these basic differences between male and female thinking can go a LONG WAY TORWARDS PROVIDING MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND PATIENCE IN A RELATIONSHIP

and I have found a WACKY sense of humor about the male female relationship also invalualble---- I like to TEASE women I know about DISCOVERING THE SECRET OF THE FEMININE MYSTIQUE--- it is simply their DUAL BRAIN ABILITY to CONFUSE us poor males who are stuck with our left brain logic that fails us MISERABLY when it comes to SORTING IT ALL OUT ---- GET THIS --- I actually had one female clerk get angry at me --- apparently for exsposing what she thought LAY HIDDEN from all us unsuspecting males ---- AND ONE FINALL THOUGHT --- I think that it is PAINFULLY OBVIOUS that there is way too much MALE LOGIC at work in the world today " WINING AT ALL COSTS " ( regardless of the cost ) --- PROFITS ARE EVERYTHING --- etc -- etc CHUBBY

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VerdureVision — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 06:00:38 GMT

That was a great article!

I can't remember where I first heard this other piece of advice, but it has often helped me step away and re-think my position when entangled in heated disagreements. I ask myself, "Do you want to be happy, or do you want to be right?"

Happy wins out, frequently and often... ;-)

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otgary — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 05:45:05 GMT

Dr. Mercola shares an abundance of helpful, pro-survival knowledge, however his promotion of the 'technique' that uses hypnosis is very mis-guided and based on ignorance of how damaging hypnosis is to a person's self-determinism. Hypnosis treats a person like a robot that can be programmed, which subverts the person's own ability to control their own thinking or mental functioning.

There are much newer, workable discoveries on how the mind works and how a person can become fully self-determined as opposed to being programmed, which is very degrading and damaging. Extensive research has proven that.

Whether free expression of ideas that may disagree with another's opinion are allowed on this site will be determined by this expression above being posted or not.

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curious7 — Sat, 31 May 2008 21:56:52 GMT

Communicate, communicate, communicate. If a husband and wife learn the art of communication they will have a happy lasting relationship. Believe me that takes patience.

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Arizona — Sat, 31 May 2008 15:15:23 GMT

My husband is bipolar 2. I have had to learn patience and then some. Believe me I am not always good

about it either, but I try my best.

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USMom68 — Sat, 31 May 2008 13:45:53 GMT

Good article, Dr. Mercola. To think I paid a therapist thousands of dollars to hear..."treat the other person how you would like to be treated". It's amazing how we forget that very simple rule from kindergarten when we get married.

...it was worth every penny. Married to my highschool sweetheart 19 years tomorrow.

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Blackberry Blossom Farmer — Sat, 31 May 2008 11:41:53 GMT

Patience feeds the farmer!

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4Hand Healthy — Wed, 14 May 2008 01:57:11 GMT

Patience is a virtue...but it doesn't come naturally.Humans usually seek instant gratification.Patience is rewarding.This is Biblically based.