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Three Rules for Developing Courage
Posted by: Dr. Mercola
January 02 2002 | 9,107 views

By Brian Tracy

The First Responsibility of Leadership

The step-by-step development of courage in yourself is the first responsibility of leadership. The second responsibility is to develop and instill courage in others, your staff, your children, your spouse, your friends. But you must begin with yourself because you can't give away something that you don't have. You can only encourage others to the degree to which you experience and demonstrate courage yourself. You set the tone and determine the standard.

Courage Is Mastery of Fear

Here's the first rule: "Everyone is afraid." You're afraid, I'm afraid, everyone you meet is afraid in some way, often in many ways. As Mark Twain said, "Courage is not absence of fear; it is control of fear, mastery of fear." The brave person is the person who acts in spite of his or her fear, who faces the fear, feels the fear and moves forward regardless.

Confront Your Fears

Here's the second rule: "Fears diminish and lose their power over you as you confront them and move toward them; conversely, every time you back away from a fear situation, the fear grows and becomes more powerful."

Make It A Habit

The only way to develop courage is to consciously and continuously make a habit of confronting your fear of treating every fear-inducing situation as a challenge and as an opportunity to become stronger, more resolute.

Do The Thing You Fear

Here's the third rule:

"Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain."

Psychologists call this the process of "systematic desensitization," doing it over and over until it holds no fear for you at all.

Many businesspeople who have been so afraid of public speaking that they couldn't lead a silent prayer in a phone booth have used this process of eliminating fear.

Dr. Mercola's EFT Expansion

When you apply effectively EFT fear doesn't stand a chance. Fear is one of the easiest things that EFT can handle.

Some simple statements to use in your taping sequence would be:

Even though I am afraid of (whatever you are afraid of) I choose to be calm and confident.

Remember to say calm and confident with great emphasis each time as it will greatly help the effectiveness.

Also remember that if you are in a public situation and you are uncomfortable about tapping in public you can just separately apply gentle pressure on each of the points and say the statement silently.

I believe the full sequence stated aloud is probably more effective, but I have had success with both methods.

If you feel that you would like some personal coaching in this area to help you with some fear, please be sure and consider my ten hours of video with the one-year no questions asked guarantee.






 
 
 
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