The way people feel about you on the job can have an important effect on how successful you are at forming important work relationships that enable you to get things done.
In fact, according to a Harvard Business Review study, likeability trumps competence, even if the disagreeable employee has the right skill set.
Other benefits of being perceived to be friendly and likeable on the job:
- Likeable employees may bring more business to a company because they have better rapport with customers.
- Being agreeable can often bring more promotions and bigger salaries.
Conversely, an unpleasant personality may cost you that new job you were looking for, and the old one you wanted to leave behind.
However, there can also be a downside to likeability. For example, managers who are too likeable can occasionally get too sociable with their subordinates, blurring the line between boss and friend.
But this study illustrates that there is another benefit you may not have previously considered when it comes to taming your emotions:
If people like you then you can be more successful in your job.
It has long been known that personal and professional success may lead to happiness but may also engender success. Happy individuals are predisposed to seek out and undertake new goals in life and this reinforces positive emotions.
Happiness can lead to success, rather than merely resulting from success. Happy individuals are more likely than their less happy peers to have fulfilling marriages and relationships, high incomes, superior work performance, community involvement, robust health and even a long life.
As Bobby McFerrin was fond of saying: "Don't worry, Be Happy."
Others have stated that if you are not happy you should fake it until you make it. It is amazing how regularly acting as if you were happy helps you actually become healthy.
Now if you struggle with serious challenges that prevent you from being authentically happy I would strongly encourage you to find a professional who is skilled in energy psychology tools like EFT so you can be helped at the foundational level.