By Christine Wheeler, MA
As a parent how often have you wished that you could make your child's sadness, upsets and fears just disappear? Is your child being teased or bullied ... leaving him or her with damaged self-esteem and a compromised sense of safety?
Has an unkind family member or teacher left your child feeling stupid or inept? What about fears and phobias ... do you worry that your child will carry these into adulthood?
Children are resilient and you have likely seen your own child bounce back from a challenging time. But what if that challenge ... or trauma, has left an imprint on your child's subtle energy system?
Is that a new term to you? Subtle energy system? If so, then you may wish to explore Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) ... a healing tool that offers a new explanation for your child's intense emotional reactions ... and offers a solution to keep your child from taking that trauma into adulthood.
EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture except you don't use needles. Instead, you stimulate well established meridian points by tapping on them with your fingertips.
The idea here is that negative emotions are caused by imbalances in the body's subtle energies (the Chinese call it Chi) and this tapping serves to restore that balance. Properly done, even the heaviest trauma or the most embarrassing rejection becomes "just something else that happened."
While a complete description of EFT is beyond the scope of this article, you can learn all the basics from my free EFT Manual. Those wishing to save time and dive right in can get the very affordable EFT Book and DVD.
You can help your child -- your whole family in fact -- gain freedom from emotional upset and trauma while they are still children. Using EFT will increase your children's chances of growing up free of negative beliefs about themselves ... and without those fears and phobias.
So if your son messed up his lines in a school play and the whole school laughed at him ... and now he won't speak in front of people ... EFT can help erase the trauma associated with that situation ... and reduce the likelihood that he'll have a fear of public speaking as an adult.
He doesn't need to keep feeling bad about himself ... and you can stop worrying.
EFT can resolve children's anger, fear, learning difficulties, emotional upset.
Perhaps you could use EFT to help your child resolve an anger issue or dissipate a firmly held fear. You can help him or her eliminate some learning disabilities, relieve headaches & nightmares or get rid of some tendencies to stutter.
Does your child have a fear that is interfering with his or her joy in life? Maybe it is a fear of water ... of bugs ... of the dark ... a fear of a child at school -- whatever it is -- it's making your child suffer unnecessarily.
Anyone ... even children ... can learn the basics of EFT. Here is a tool that empowers you and your children to take control of lingering emotional hurts and upsets.
EFT Quickly Clears Intense Fear of the Dark in 13-Year-Old Foster Child
EFT therapist Mary Stafford worked with a 13-year-old young man, B.J. (whose name has been changed to protect privacy.) Each time he did laundry, B.J. would put his clothing in the washer on the back porch of his foster home during the day but would never go onto the porch after dark to retrieve his clothes.
His foster mother asked him why he always waited until the morning to get his clothes.
B.J. said that when he was living in his biological mother's home, he was awakened at night by a light outside his bedroom window. A man carrying a gun was climbing up the side of the trailer. B.J. screamed for his mother who came into his room.
He was able to go back to sleep eventually but ever since he has had anxiety associated with looking out a window at night. As a result, he would wait until morning to pick up his clothes from the porch.
Mary showed B.J. how to do EFT and with one application of the procedure, he knew his anxiety was gone. This probably took about three minutes. That night B.J. tested himself by going outside alone in the dark, and he did so without any anxiety whatsoever.
Mary said, "He was very excited to learn such an easy way to recover from emotional blocks and wanted to know everything about how and why it worked so easily."
Please consult qualified health professionals before putting EFT into practice for yourself or others.