By Christine Wheeler, MA
Are you concerned that you may be experiencing some kind of sexual difficulty? Maybe your libido doesn't match your partner's. Maybe it's difficult for you to become enthusiastic in the bedroom and you find yourself telling your partner "not tonight honey."
Have you been thinking that you should do it to please your partner ... but just don't want to ... and you don't really care if you ever do it again? Are you tired of feeling that you're not normal just because you don't have a strong sex drive?
Fortunately, your libido doesn't have to lag behind because a new procedure (EFT) can help you lift the lid regarding your intimacy issues.
According to an article in the online Journal of the American Psychological Association (APA), conventional sex experts are labeling some women with Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD), a medical condition that they attempt to control with drugs.
Other experts view women's sexual interest levels as being influenced by relationship issues, or psychological issues relating to past abuse, trauma or depression.
Before applying a testosterone patch or taking antidepressants to alter your passionate desires chemically ... consider EFT.
EFT is a uniquely gentle approach to alleviating the pain, distress, anger, shame, fear, guilt and embarrassment often associated with "sexual dysfunction." You can also relieve your unresolved negative emotions, beliefs or unproductive feelings about sexual intimacy.
EFT is a form of acupuncture without needles and you can easily learn to do it yourself. While considering the intimacy issues that are troubling you, you simply tap on a series of acupuncture points using your own fingertips. This stimulates your body's energy meridians and restores the free flow of your "subtle energies." The result is often a return to normal libido.
Here's a story of a woman who treated her own sexual difficulties while sitting in an audience of 300 at Gary Craig's EFT Seminar.
Marilyn (whose name has been changed to protect privacy) was a participant in one of Gary Craig's EFT seminars and chose to tap for her own intimacy issues while watching Gary (the EFT Founder) work with someone on stage. Her results were remarkable.
During a break, Gary met Marilyn who was crying "tears of joy." Marilyn shared with Gary that she had spent years in conventional therapy to address her issues with men regarding abuse, abandonment and incest. She found the conventional therapy to be helpful in that she had many "cognitive insights" and "understandings" about these issues. But the problems remained unresolved; she still distanced herself emotionally and romantically from men.
According to EFT theory, Marilyn's issues remained unresolved because she was still storing the issues in her energy meridian system.
Marilyn's tears of joy were because she had been tapping the audience to clear these issues and she reported that she had genuinely resolved them. She finally had freedom from several longstanding issues. And this relief finally cleared the way for a truly meaningful romantic relationship with her boyfriend, Donald.
Gary reports, "It was easy to see the twinkle in her eye and I remember saying, with humor, "I think Donald owes me a Ferrari!" She smiled and said, "I think you're right!"
After the seminar, Marilyn wrote to Gary to give details on the work she had done during the seminar. She reported that she completely cleared three separate and intense traumas that where inhibiting her ability to feel safe with men.
First issue: Marilyn had been severely beaten by her husband 22 years previously. During the beating she felt that her death was imminent. While doing EFT she realized that she spent the last 22 years protecting herself from men and not being open to men, sexually or otherwise. Before doing EFT in the audience, Marilyn identified her distress as an 8 out of 10. EFT cleared this trauma to a zero.
Second issue: During the seminar, Marilyn realized that she had abandonment issues that stemmed from the sudden death of her boyfriend whom she loved deeply. This was 32 years ago. While Borrowing Benefits, Marilyn identified her distress as a 7 out of 10 and she cleared this trauma to zero. She realized that she no longer needed to feel any sense of abandonment. She recognized that this would have a strong positive effect on her current relationship with her boyfriend.
Third issue: When Marilyn was 13, she was a victim of incest at the hands of her 14-year-old brother. She said that at the time, she had been completely passive. As she was tapping during the seminar, she knew that she would never be passive again and leave her body during intimate times with her partner.
Marilyn returned home to her boyfriend, Donald, and reported being "fully present in love making for the first time in my life!!! What a reward!!!! Yes, Gary, you are right ... Donald does owe you a Ferrari!!! I FEEL LIKE A NEW PERSON!!!!!!!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!"
Gary followed up with Marilyn some time later and she happily reported that she was no longer in a relationship with Donald, but had gone on to date other men and her romantic freedom was generating ecstatic benefits.
While a complete description of EFT is beyond the scope of this article, you can learn all the basics from the free EFT Get Started Package on the EFT Web site. This includes a free download of the 79-page EFT Manual. Those wishing to save time and dive right in can get the EFT DVD and book.
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Please note that in addition to relieving women's sexual difficulties, EFT has been a consistently effective healing tool for hundreds of other physical, mental and emotional ailments. For more information, you can explore the EFT page and its numerous success stories regarding fears, phobias, emotional traumas and physical ailments.
Please consult qualified health professionals before putting EFT into practice for yourself or others.