Dr. Mercola October 02 2007 126,722 views
What are you really looking for in life?
Once you look deeper, beyond your desire for a bigger house or a fancier car, you will most likely discover that what you’re truly searching for is not more “stuff,” but more happiness, more joy.
It may seem some people are born with enjoyment for life programmed into their hardwiring, whereas for others finding happiness seems an elusive goal. But, like any programming, yours can be changed.
Here are just a few of the 30 simple tips that can help you rewrite your life program into one that is filled with joy.
1. Experiment to find out what makes you happy. If you haven’t taken the time to explore what brings joy to your life on a regular basis, you may realize you don’t even know what brings you happiness anymore. If that’s the case, try out different things, including some you’ve never done before. The answers just might surprise you. 2. Focus on gratitude. Incorporate a daily gratitude session where you identify something you are grateful for. You can express your gratitude in any number of ways: silently say “thank you,” call or email the person you want to thank, or devise your own gratitude ritual – maybe try out “The Gratitude Dance!” 3. Take time to savor life. Resolve to cut down on the rushing from one thing to the next – delegate or say no – to reduce your number of appointments and daily tasks. 4. Stop watching and reading depressing news. In the beginning you may worry that you’ll miss something, but think about it – when was the last time you truly needed to know the things covered in the daily news. Being selective about the information you expose yourself to can have an incredible impact on your level of personal happiness. 5. Laugh now! When you’re in the middle of a mess, look around you and realize the absurdity of the moment. Remind yourself that a year from now, no one will care, and you’ll probably be laughing about it anyway, so why wait? Laugh about it now!
1. Experiment to find out what makes you happy. If you haven’t taken the time to explore what brings joy to your life on a regular basis, you may realize you don’t even know what brings you happiness anymore. If that’s the case, try out different things, including some you’ve never done before. The answers just might surprise you.
2. Focus on gratitude. Incorporate a daily gratitude session where you identify something you are grateful for. You can express your gratitude in any number of ways: silently say “thank you,” call or email the person you want to thank, or devise your own gratitude ritual – maybe try out “The Gratitude Dance!”
3. Take time to savor life. Resolve to cut down on the rushing from one thing to the next – delegate or say no – to reduce your number of appointments and daily tasks.
4. Stop watching and reading depressing news. In the beginning you may worry that you’ll miss something, but think about it – when was the last time you truly needed to know the things covered in the daily news. Being selective about the information you expose yourself to can have an incredible impact on your level of personal happiness.
5. Laugh now! When you’re in the middle of a mess, look around you and realize the absurdity of the moment. Remind yourself that a year from now, no one will care, and you’ll probably be laughing about it anyway, so why wait? Laugh about it now!
Happiness is important for so many reasons, beyond the obvious fact that most people would prefer to be happy rather than not. There is little doubt about the powerful effects positive emotions can have on your physical health and well-being. At the same time, there is equally little doubt about the effects that negative emotions can have on you.
Happiness will not only protect your body from stressors that can lead to coronary heart disease, but it can even boost your immune system‘s ability to fight off the common cold.
But, I’ve realized that for many, “happiness” is far too nebulous a term. Do you struggle to define an activity that truly makes you happy? If so, I want to share with you a new definition that nearly everyone can easily grasp and apply.
“Happiness” can more accurately be identified by your brain as whatever gets you excited.
It is what makes you JUMP out of bed in the morning with eager anticipation to start your day. Once you identify that activity, whatever it is, you can start to focus on it, and structure you life to do more of that.
If you can become happier, you will help build a better world. If you can improve your ability to address stresses and negative emotions, you‘re more likely to be able to do the things that no one would claim are trivial. For me, this is easy. My mission is to catalyze the change of the entire fatally flawed health paradigm. I truly love what I do, and that is why "working" long hours every week continues to be a source of happiness in my life.
And, speaking of work, and hence money, is it true that money can’t bring you happiness?
I believe that to say that wealth can NEVER bring you happiness is too simple a statement, because there are a number of factors involved. Financial wealth, when achieved through providing appropriate value to your culture can provide enormous joy and satisfaction. However, when you achieve wealth through mechanisms such as winning the lottery or being catapulted into the media spotlight, the value may not be entirely authentic, and thus the reward of wealth is completely disproportionate to your level of happiness. Many of today’s media celebrities exhibit this type of lottery winner effect, where their riches have absolutely no impact on their level of happiness.
But, essentially, it’s not the money in and of itself that brings either happiness or unhappiness, but rather it’s HOW your wealth is obtained that is the crux of the equation. With respect to happiness, financial wealth is a side effect of the journey to pursue it. But it is the journey itself that provides the joy and happiness. So if you cheat or take a shortcut, you will probably not achieve the happiness you seek.
Building positive emotions through humor is one of the most natural things you can do to bring joy to your work, and broaden your view of this wonderful world in which we live. So, when things go wrong, why not indulge in the instant gratification of laughing now, rather than later?
In my opinion, happiness isn‘t so much something you strive for but a spontaneous natural result of pursuing your God-given mission in life -- and following a natural lifestyle that allows your body to function at its highest possible level.
That is in large part what the Total Health Progam is all about.
Dumb Little Man
As stated...find what makes you happy!My son thought money would make him happy and he worked diligently to achive his goals.He loves fishing and as he told me..fishing is peaceful, it centers me.After he bought his dream home, he bought a top of the line Bass boat, hoping to get into the competitive field of Bass fishing, thereby making money from winnning. Well, he didn't have the time that was needed to compete..much to his dismay. So, he made another choice, thinking..I'll go after the the big fish, Tuna off of Montauk,LI, NY. He turned in the Bass boat and got a sea worthy boat, costing five times more than the Bass boat.Still following his "dream". He dam near lost his life off Block Island, as the sea swells got higher and the Coast Guard had to tow him in.
He turned his energy back into making MORE money, thinking, more money would give him the opportunity to do the thing he loved doing...fishing!BUT he got caught up in "acting as if, he was one of the Forbes 500".Needless to say, it became his down fall! One day he woke up, his wife told him..we are in debt over our heads, what are you doing with all the money you make?Hmmmm? A six figure income.
THAT remark shook him up, he came to his senses and is now trying to repair the damages. He may have to declare bankrupcty, may lose his dream house...so much for the "find something that makes you happy!"
Because he is "good" at what he does, head hunters were after him ALL the time, which gave him a sense of being invinceable.He was offered more and more money...one could say he got drunk on $$$. He lost ALL perspective! The only thing he could think about was "fishing" and being able to retire and fish BUT the money got in the way.
He fell into the Hollywood trap..fame means more money, more money when not used properly and NOT full filling..that which makes you happy, is a "witches concoction for dispair".
I'd like to add to Dr. Mercola's comments. Yes lotto winners are large losers in the happiness area. Soon TV program is bringing out another reality show about those lucky few. So please don't fall for the propaganda, statistically lottery winners and other instant rich folks are very unhappy campers. Much it is written in Proverbs.
I'm presently reading Larry Winget's book Stop Whining and get a life. Man it's a blast and hits on the same theme as this one. What I'm learning is that if we read enough material on personal growth we will eventually encounter a few common theme's. Our personal happiness is doable god info again..... and I had a good laugh.....lol......
Regarding wealth, it long ago struck me that a lot of people I met in Siberia were "wealthier" than most of the harried people I know in Japan, not in monetary terms, but in terms of quality of existence: sturdy housing, fresh home-grown food, good friends, a sense of security and time to enjoy life. Those things are out of reach of most of us, unless we make drastic revisions in our lifestyle choices. I have heard that some cultures define wealth in terms of numbers of friends rather than material possessions. I also learned a new definition of wealth from a priest recently: the ability to take care of your own needs plus have something left over to give to others. By his definition, a taxi driver I knew who died practically bankrupt after transporting handicapped people free-of-charge, was far wealthier than his sister who amassed a fortune, afraid to spend a penny of it on herself or others. Under the priest's definition, practically anyone can be wealthy. The first step is to free yourself of fear of poverty and act wealthy. If you have no money, please consider what other resources you have and how you might be generous with them.
Camel, eye of needle. Cannot thrust the sucker though.
So where are the "30" Simple Secrets listed? I only saw 5 in the article and no link to the remaining 25. The first 5 secrets were so interesting I want to read the rest of them.
If you click on the "dumb little man" it will take you there, Phillip. Or www.dumblittleman.com/.../30-happiness-tips-program-your-life-for.html
Katee Roux
there is a complete news overload in our culture, and most of it is not news or newsworthy. cutting down on watching television news is a very helpful suggestion. parsing the available news sources for important newsworthy items can be effective and less stressful and upsetting.
I agree. I was just reading the info Dr. Mercola has about GM fooda and am now wondering what is SAFE to eat! That is not making me very happy right now!