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30 Simple Secrets to Happiness

What are you really looking for in life?                                               

Once you look deeper, beyond your desire for a bigger house or a fancier car, you will most likely discover that what you’re truly searching for is not more “stuff,” but more happiness, more joy.

It may seem some people are born with enjoyment for life programmed into their hardwiring, whereas for others finding happiness seems an elusive goal. But, like any programming, yours can be changed.

Here are just a few of the 30 simple tips that can help you rewrite your life program into one that is filled with joy.

1.      Experiment to find out what makes you happy. If you haven’t taken the time to explore what brings joy to your life on a regular basis, you may realize you don’t even know what brings you happiness anymore. If that’s the case, try out different things, including some you’ve never done before. The answers just might surprise you.

2.      Focus on gratitude. Incorporate a daily gratitude session where you identify something you are grateful for. You can express your gratitude in any number of ways: silently say “thank you,” call or email the person you want to thank, or devise your own gratitude ritual – maybe try out “The Gratitude Dance!

3.      Take time to savor life. Resolve to cut down on the rushing from one thing to the next – delegate or say no – to reduce your number of appointments and daily tasks.

4.      Stop watching and reading depressing news. In the beginning you may worry that you’ll miss something, but think about it – when was the last time you truly needed to know the things covered in the daily news. Being selective about the information you expose yourself to can have an incredible impact on your level of personal happiness.

5.      Laugh now! When you’re in the middle of a mess, look around you and realize the absurdity of the moment. Remind yourself that a year from now, no one will care, and you’ll probably be laughing about it anyway, so why wait? Laugh about it now!

Happiness is important for so many reasons, beyond the obvious fact that most people would prefer to be happy rather than not. There is little doubt about the powerful effects positive emotions can have on your physical health and well-being. At the same time, there is equally little doubt about the effects that negative emotions can have on you.

Happiness will not only protect your body from stressors that can lead to coronary heart disease, but it can even boost your immune system‘s ability to fight off the common cold.

But, I’ve realized that for many, “happiness” is far too nebulous a term. Do you struggle to define an activity that truly makes you happy? If so, I want to share with you a new definition that nearly everyone can easily grasp and apply.

“Happiness” can more accurately be identified by your brain as whatever gets you excited.

It is what makes you JUMP out of bed in the morning with eager anticipation to start your day. Once you identify that activity, whatever it is, you can start to focus on it, and structure you life to do more of that.

If you can become happier, you will help build a better world. If you can improve your ability to address stresses and negative emotions, you‘re more likely to be able to do the things that no one would claim are trivial. For me, this is easy. My mission is to catalyze the change of the entire fatally flawed health paradigm. I truly love what I do, and that is why "working" long hours every week continues to be a source of happiness in my life.

And, speaking of work, and hence money, is it true that money can’t bring you happiness?

I believe that to say that wealth can NEVER bring you happiness is too simple a statement, because there are a number of factors involved. Financial wealth, when achieved through providing appropriate value to your culture can provide enormous joy and satisfaction.

However, when you achieve wealth through mechanisms such as winning the lottery or being catapulted into the media spotlight, the value may not be entirely authentic, and thus the reward of wealth is completely disproportionate to your level of happiness. Many of today’s media celebrities exhibit this type of lottery winner effect, where their riches have absolutely no impact on their level of happiness.

But, essentially, it’s not the money in and of itself that brings either happiness or unhappiness, but rather it’s HOW your wealth is obtained that is the crux of the equation. 

With respect to happiness, financial wealth is a side effect of the journey to pursue it. But it is the journey itself that provides the joy and happiness. So if you cheat or take a shortcut, you will probably not achieve the happiness you seek.

Building positive emotions through humor is one of the most natural things you can do to bring joy to your work, and broaden your view of this wonderful world in which we live. So, when things go wrong, why not indulge in the instant gratification of laughing now, rather than later?

In my opinion, happiness isn‘t so much something you strive for but a spontaneous natural result of pursuing your God-given mission in life -- and following a natural lifestyle that allows your body to function at its highest possible level.

That is in large part what the Total Health Progam is all about.

Dumb Little Man

 



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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
It is interesting to me, all of the Hollywood stars emerging and talking about their depression.  This illustrates the one thing that does not create happiness; wealth. 

 
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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
Yes, samurai, also if you take a moment to listen to any of the "pop" songs today, they are all about angst and depression and misery. I think part of the problem is that many people today get caught up in the things that the article initially describes: wealth, possessions, etc., and they just don't have a sense of purpose because these are like the empty calories of life--they temporarily satisfy, but do more harm than good in the end.


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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
Well Said, Samurai!


Russ Bianchi
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Posted On Sep 15, 2007
"No One On Their Death Bed Wished They Had Spent An Extra Hour At The Office."   Peter Lynch



Dr. Mercola
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Posted On Sep 22, 2007
I don't believe using celebrities as an example proves your point at all as there are far more factors involved.  Wealth achieved through providing appropriate value to the culture can provide enormous joy and satisfaction.

However when it is achieved through mechanisms such as winning the lottery or being a media star, the value is not authentic and thus the wealth reward is absolutely disproportionate to the happiness achieved. So in media celebrities you see far more of the lottery winner effect.

So It is NOT wealth but how the wealth that is obtained that is the crux of the equation. 

With respect to happiness the wealth is a side effect of the journey to pursue it.  THAT is what provides the joy and happiness. So if you cheat and take a shortcut you will not achieve the happiness you seek.


maggie36
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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

As stated...find what makes you happy!My son thought money would make him happy and he worked diligently to achive his goals.He loves fishing and as he told me..fishing is peaceful, it centers me.After he bought his dream home, he bought a top of the line Bass boat, hoping to get into the competitive field of Bass fishing, thereby making money from winnning. Well, he didn't have the time that was needed to compete..much to his dismay. So, he made another choice, thinking..I'll go after the the big fish, Tuna off of Montauk,LI, NY. He turned in the Bass boat and got a sea worthy boat, costing five times more than the Bass boat.Still following his "dream". He dam near lost his life off Block Island, as the sea swells got higher and the Coast Guard had to tow him in.

He turned his energy back into making MORE money, thinking, more money would give him the opportunity to do the thing he loved doing...fishing!BUT he got caught up in "acting as if, he was one of the Forbes 500".Needless to say, it became his down fall! One day he woke up, his wife told him..we are in debt over our heads, what are you doing with all the money you make?Hmmmm? A six figure income.

THAT remark shook him up, he came to his senses and is now trying to repair the damages. He may have to declare bankrupcty, may lose his dream house...so much for the "find something that makes you happy!"

Because he is "good" at what he does, head hunters were after him ALL the time, which gave him a sense of being invinceable.He was offered more and more money...one could say he got drunk on $$$. He lost ALL perspective! The only thing he could think about was "fishing" and being able to retire and fish BUT the money got in the way.

He fell into the Hollywood trap..fame means more money, more money when not used properly and NOT full filling..that which makes you happy, is a "witches concoction for dispair".



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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

I'd like to add to Dr. Mercola's comments. Yes lotto winners are large losers in the happiness area. Soon TV program is bringing out another reality show about those lucky few. So please don't fall for the propaganda, statistically lottery winners and other instant rich folks are very unhappy campers. Much it is written in Proverbs.

I'm presently reading Larry Winget's book Stop Whining and get a life. Man it's a blast and hits on the same theme as this one. What I'm learning is that if we read enough material on personal growth we will eventually encounter a few common theme's. Our personal happiness is doable god info again..... and I had a good laugh.....lol......



Pat Ormsby
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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

Regarding wealth, it long ago struck me that a lot of people I met in Siberia were "wealthier" than most of the harried people I know in Japan, not in monetary terms, but in terms of quality of existence: sturdy housing, fresh home-grown food, good friends, a sense of security and time to enjoy life.  Those things are out of reach of most of us, unless we make drastic revisions in our lifestyle choices.  I have heard that some cultures define wealth in terms of numbers of friends rather than material possessions.  I also learned a new definition of wealth from a priest recently:  the ability to take care of your own needs plus have something left over to give to others.  By his definition, a taxi driver I knew who died practically bankrupt after transporting handicapped people free-of-charge, was far wealthier than his sister who amassed a fortune, afraid to spend a penny of it on herself or others.  Under the priest's definition, practically anyone can be wealthy.  The first step is to free yourself of fear of poverty and act wealthy.  If you have no money, please consider what other resources you have and how you might be generous with them.



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Posted On Mar 19, 2009

Camel, eye of needle. Cannot thrust the sucker though.


 
 
 
Posted On Sep 13, 2007
30 of anything sounds more complex than simple...

Someone correct me if I don't have this perfect but doesn't Proverbs say:

"He that would love life and see good days keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking guile"

 
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Posted On Sep 13, 2007
I particularly like #3, "COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS".


Katee Roux
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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
I don't think they mean "do these 30 things to be happy," Alaskadude.  I think it was more of, "here are 30 things that contribute to happiness.  Give some a try!"

They're mostly simple things that we forget to do or remember.


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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

So where are the "30" Simple Secrets listed?  I only saw 5 in the article and no link to the remaining 25.  The first 5 secrets were so interesting I want to read the rest of them.



Katee Roux
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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

If you click on the "dumb little man" it will take you there, Phillip.  Or www.dumblittleman.com/.../30-happiness-tips-program-your-life-for.html

Katee Roux


 
 
 
Posted On Sep 14, 2007
I just received a wav file via email that fits right in with this article called "The Seven Wonders of the World".  I have no clue how to post a wave file here, but if you can find it, it's great.

 
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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
The only one I can't agree with is #27 - stop watching or reading the news.  I like to be informed about what is going on in the world.  But if it upsets you, by all means stop.  But if we all did this, Dr. Mercola would have quite a few less vital voters.

 
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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
But we enjoy vv, Sheila.  It recommended focusing on reading you enjoy.

I think it's talking about people who hang on news, who can't miss it.  I stopped watching tv news long ago, except on occasion.  On occasion i also read a newspaper.  But it's not part of my daily routine.  The mass media presents things so twisted anyway, that it isn't much information.  I'd rather spend the time i have checking out vv & other news sources online than to spend it watching the tv news or newspaper.  I think i get better info that way & i enjoy it.


LM36
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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
T.M.I. = Too Much Information!   You have to ask yourself is it really helpful to know everything that is going on in the world at any given moment of everyday?  Anyways, it is also what you do with that information, do you use it to better yourself or do you gain some insightful knowledge.  I believe most of us on VV use the information  to better ourselves and others.  Most of the media news today only perpetuates a culture of celebrity worshipping, paranoiad delusions of terrorism OR over-analyzing to death the things that we cannot change which equals unhappy people who think they know it all!     


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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
I believe the reference is to commercial TV news or newspapers which tend to biased and distorted. Web 2.0 Internet communities, like Vital Votes, are an entirely different animal.


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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
When it comes to the media, drama sells! Remember how we were all glued to the TV during 9-11, when the Iraq work broke out, Princess Diana's death & funeral, etc.

I like to watch/listen to the news while getting ready in the morning but I do notice how the good and bad news affects my emotions.

In the evening, we may do some light TV if at all. I love the new show like Candid Camera, something like, Just for Laughs. My daughter and I fell on the floor laughing at some guy with an alient costume chasing these women around a parked car.


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Posted On Sep 14, 2007
I like to have Tivo when I watch the news. Sure skipping over the commercials is good, but skipping over biased one-sided stories is a good way to give me more time so I can do better things with my life away from home. If you have Tivo too (or anything similar) then you may be taking for granted the problems associated with watching the news without it.


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Posted On Sep 19, 2007
Wow, we sure must not be getting the same news as you Americans.  On CTV today, check out the headlines:
Atlantic Canadians sue makers of Oxycontin.
Saskatchewan court certifies class-action cellphone suit.
And thankfully we don't have all those drug commercials like you guys do.  Honestly I don't know how you stand it, every second commercial is promoting some new drug, sometimes they even run together (like my sentences).  My kids used to ask me why that lady looked so happy after her husband took the little blue pill, instead an increase in Vitamins A & E will do the trick, LOL.


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Posted On Oct 01, 2007

there is a complete news overload in our culture, and most of it is not news or newsworthy. cutting down on watching television news is a very helpful suggestion.  parsing the available news sources for important newsworthy items can be effective and less stressful and upsetting.



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Posted On Oct 02, 2007

I agree. I was just reading the info Dr. Mercola has about GM fooda and am now wondering what is SAFE to eat! That is not making me very happy right now!


 
 
 
Posted On Sep 15, 2007
 This has nothing to do with this subject, but I need some advice and don't know where else to post this. Please let me know if you have had a similar experience or if you have any advice to give. I am worried and am not sure where I went wrong with my diet.

I attempted a vegetarian lifestyle for 3-4 months. During that time, I paid VERY close attention to my nutrition. I juiced every morning (carrots, apples, cucumber, zuchinni, tomatoes, spinach) and followed that with a smoothie (frozen banannas/strawberries, yogurt, peanut butter, coconut oil, almond milk.) I ate lots of broccoli, eggs, and cheese and I cooked everything in serious butter (well, a 'healthy butter with omegas added) to ensure I was getting some fat in my system too. Oh, and I cut out alcohol entirely and drank only water and some coffee.

I noticed my appetite was getting smaller and smaller and I related that to the fact that I was getting so much nutrition through the juices and smoothies that my body just didn't need more.

Now, 4 months later, I realize I have some how seriously damaged my body. I lost over 20 lbs in about 3 months and I lost nearly... no... not nearly... all.. absolutely all of my muscle mass. I look like a tooth pick. My 'skinny' clothes that haven't been touched in years are now hanging on me like I'm a friggin' coat hanger. And, the thing is, I didn't need to lose any weight to begin with. I now weigh 110 lbs (less than I did in high school) and I am trying like a crazy person to put some weight back on. Oh, and, my hair stylist felt the need to tell me I lost a lot of hair in the sink after she washed it. And, my nails have deep vertical ridges.

 I want to take care of my body, which is what I thought I had been doing all along. Argh! Can anyone tell me if they have had a similar experience? And, what did you do to fix it? I know I should go to a doctor, but I just moved across the country and my finances are squashed. Any sug

 
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Posted On Sep 15, 2007
A "vegetarian" lifestyle is not healthy for everyone, and it is especially unhealthy for "protein types".  Look through Dr. Mercola's site for information on metabolic typing. If you are in fact a protein type, you need good quality - high purine protein that can only be found in animal products that are higher in this type of protein than just eggs/dairy products/nuts. Too much of the wrong veggies can actually not be good for a protein type according to Dr. Mercola's info on Nutritional Typing which is based on Dr. Wolcott's research.  Dr. Mercola has a lot of info on this on his site - good luck.  BTW, there is a lot of conflicting advice on what constitutes a "healthy diet". You need to make decisions based on what your body is telling you and apparently your body isn't very happy right now.  I am not advising you in any way, but just suggesting that you may need to rethink what you consider a healthy diet.


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Posted On Sep 16, 2007
Hi Alexism,
Muscle loss (I think it's called sarcopenia) happened with me after surgery.  Not because I wasn't eating meat, but because I wasn't moving.  I have always been proud of my quads, and as soon as I was able to move, they came back right away.
They say that muscle "has memory" and I believe that is true.
I am not a big advocate on weight lifting because it is quite unnatural, and not good on joints.  Instead, I do leg up's and squats. 
See if that works for you.
Dr. Mercola is not a fan of veganism, and it sounds like you had the same results as if you were.  (I know you were a vegetarian, but had the negative outcome of a vegan)
Good news, I don't believe that the damage is irreversible.  Do leg exercises, and oh yeah.  Buy P.A.C.E. on this website.  It's excellent !!!!
Non-predatory fish is my favorite form of meat.  Especially Alaskan Sockeye Salmon.
Good luck to you.


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Posted On Sep 16, 2007
Alexism, I agree with samurai. Have you exercised much during all this time? Also, pay attention to the minerals in your diet. There are a number of reasons for hair loss, and mineral deficiency is one of them. Also, if you are low on thyroid hormone you can experience thinning hair. If you have too much thyroid, you can lose weight very fast. I'd look into having my thyroid checked. Mercury-safe salmon, free range chickens, grass fed beef; all these may be useful. I know your budget is tight but I would find a good chiropractor who is knowledgeable in nutrition. Chiropractors are much more reasonably priced than an MD and could point you to a healthier way of eating. Keep reading Dr. Mercola. Think of yourself as your own best friend and then do what you would advise your best friend to do in the same circumstance. And my thoughts are with you, my friend.


samurai
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Posted On Sep 17, 2007
PPargammagirl,
I thought olive oil was the only one ruined?
Butter too???  Oh my stars. 
How about Karo syrup?   (just kidding)

 
 
 
 
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