Dr. Mercola July 29 2008 38,824 views
Which job should you take? What car should you buy? Are you ready for another baby?
Life is full of tough choices, and the bigger they are, the harder they get.
Research shows that most people will not choose at all when presented with several good options. But practice, experience, and rules of thumbs can help you to make those decisions. Here’s how:
Analyze Outcomes
When making a choice, then, it pays to take some time to consider the outcome you expect. Ask yourself the following questions:
Thinking in terms of long-term outcomes can help you find clarity and direction.
Ask Why Five Times
For instance:
Follow Your Instincts
People who make decisions quickly, even when lacking information, tend to be more satisfied with their decisions than people who research and carefully weigh their options. Your unconscious is very good at working through complex problems. People who “go with their gut” are actually trusting the work their unconscious mind has already done.
I learned a fabulous way to make decisions that involve thinking and asking why and lookng at consequences and mulling the problem over in all directions. Then, you frame a very clear question you want answered that exactly states what you want to figure out. Then burn this into your brain over a few minutes and let it GO. Let the subconsious with its full deck of cards turn it over and almost invariably within three days the answer pops up at you in a moment of brain-idling and you suddenly Know.
I find it funny that it's always three days. But the trick is not to distract the subconsious from its work by re-thinking and stewing. Get the editor out of there. Permssion to take a break from it, with ease, as you know it's already in better hands, the hands of your own subconsious that knows more about it the 'you' do.
I had a friend who asked this question about where she should live, given her clients, her horses that needed to be boarded, traffic etc and got a superb answer. But her daugther threw a fit because it was a horrible choice for her and away from her friends. The mother had forgotten to include the child in the question. it wasn't 'where is the best place for ME to live' but should have been 'best place for US to live'. Three days later she got another equally amazing and more suitable answer.
The question has got to be right and you've got to leave it alone. Then trust it; it will come with a sense of rightness. If the problem is tricky and it seems to be unpalatable but probably truly the best you can do, then believe it.
Best of both worlds, thinking gathering mind and the "Brewmaster", the subconsious.