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8 Essential Skills They Didn't Teach You In School

skills, success, education, schoolWhat are the top skills that should be taught to every man, woman, and child who enters our education system? Here are a few that aren’t taught at all:

1. How to Make People Like You and Network

For a skill that affects every area of your life (from dating, to family, to work), it’s amazing how little people know about this. There is great power in knowing you can reach out to your network whenever you have a problem to solve, to be able to reach key influencers at conferences and meetings, to make an impression on audiences, to project confidence and trustworthiness, and to make friends with other successful people.

Required reading: How to Win Friends and Influence People and How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.

2. How to Speed Read and the Power of Audio Books

Speed reading and speed comprehension is real. The nominal investment of time it takes to learn pays off in spades for the rest of your life. The same goes with audio books. If you spend an hour per day in the car learning instead of cursing at other drivers, you will have attended the equivalent of an entire semester course.

Required reading: The Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracey

3. How to Set Goals and Manage Time

Want to know how to get anything done in life? Our school system doesn’t feel that this is worth teaching. If you have ever found yourself being busy all day only to wonder what you accomplished at the end of it, then you need to learn this.

Required reading: Getting Things Done, Eat That Frog, No B.S. Time Management For Entrepreneurs

4. How to Read a Financial Statement

Robert Kiyosaki is fond of saying that the rich teach their children how to read financial statements and the poor do not. Schools have never been very good at teaching people how to get rich, probably in no small part because professors are generally poor and wouldn’t know how to teach it.

Required reading: Cash Flow Quadrant, or this blog article

5. How to Negotiate and Use Contracts

If you want to accomplish anything of significance you’re going to have to work with other people. There is a certain art to structuring good contracts and measuring results. School teaches you none of this and most people have to learn it from the school of hard knocks.

Required reading: Donald Trump’s The Art Of The Deal

6. How to Save and Invest

People are never taught how to build wealth, which is why the nation is in credit card debt. Moreover, people are never taught the power of passive income streams and how to really break free from the rat race of working 9-to-5. There is a whole body of literature on this topic which is never even touched upon in traditional education.

Required reading: The Richest Man In Babylon, The Millionaire Next Door, or Ben Franklin’s The Way To Wealth

7. How to be Successful in Life

Some people have devoted a lifetime to understanding what makes people happy and successful. There are the big three: health, wealth, and relationships. People need to find what they really want to do with their life. There is a lot to learn here!

Required reading: What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, Think and Grow Rich, The Way Of The Superior Man

8. How to Spread an Idea and Basic Marketing

The basics of marketing are something everyone should understand. Even if you don’t think you’re in marketing, you’re in marketing. If you have an idea at work, or want to get a raise, or want to convince your kids to go see a movie, then there is something applicable from the marketing world.

Required reading: Dan Kennedy’s The Ultimate Sales Letter, CopyBlogger, The Psychology of Influence


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Posted On Oct 21, 2008

money money money.....

I don't suppose that in most educational systems/establishments there is any chance of teaching kids the far more important things?...like... how to become empathic, caring, understanding of nature, how to grow, prepare and cook REAL food, nutrition, anatomy and physiology,responsibility for their health and wellness,naturapathic ways, holistic approaches.

No?...silly me.


 
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Posted On Oct 21, 2008

Dr. Mercola,

You are duly welcome to come visit my classroom anytime. Just sign in at the office. In my classroom, you will see children working on negotiation skills (finding a place to sit - no assigned seats in my room, using classroom materials first/second, etc.), money management/savings (earning points to "buy" something out of the class basket) and goal-setting (what skills - behavioral and academic - they're willing to work on for the week and how they will achieve it, plus - bonus! - self-evaluation of goal at the end of the week). What I will not teach is how to read a bank statement because the only ones I have access to are my own and since I know how to manage my money, I am a comfortable (financially-speaking) teacher. I'm not willing to share my personal numbers with my students. This is a PARENT obligation and there are plenty of places to learn (community colleges and library programs). Since most teachers ARE poor, they could teach it pretty darn well as we need to manage our money very, very carefully.

Dr. Mercola, usually you are right on the mark. I suppose, generally speaking, this article is correct. However, not all teachers run around like robots. Some of us use our own brains and teach what's necessary, not necessarily what we're told to teach. It's a dangerous line to walk, but it's worth the gamble.

See you in my classroom!


 
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Posted On Oct 27, 2008

I just want to say that although I too am very frustrated with the shortcomings of our public school system, if it weren't for our public school system, we wouldn't even be having this blog. We wouldn't speak the same language. We'd be like neighbors in rural China or Africa who speak different dialects and can't understand each other!

Plus, those poorer kids, who don't get the nicer schools that the richer kids get, wouldn't have schools at all.

YES, it's unfair and flawed but public education is still the foundation of a Democratic society. Let's just keep working to make it better. All hail the public libraries too!

Death to "No Child Left Behind" and teaching to the testing!!


 
 
 
Posted On Oct 06, 2008
Awesome list. 

 
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Posted On Oct 07, 2008
If you'd like a tool for setting your goals, you can use this web application:

http://www.Gtdagenda.com

You can use it to manage your goals, projects and tasks, set next actions and contexts, use checklists, schedules and a calendar.
A mobile version and iCal are available too.


 
 
 
Posted On Oct 07, 2008
Wow-so true.  I knew when I graduated college my education wasn't complete.  I didn't feel ready to cope with everyday life.  If only I had this list then....lol.  I've pretty much read much of the "required reading" as an adult and it does make a difference.  I am passing this on to my children as well.

mamabear

 
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Posted On Oct 07, 2008
Once again, mama bear, I agree with you and I bet you're a great mom! ;-) I'm in my 5th year of graduate school, soon to get my doctorate, and I realize that I'll be a student of life for life.  I have been educated through the public school system, but my parents have always supplemented, imparting much of the wisdom outlined above.  The rest, such as the networking skills have all been on my part, throwing myself out there and learning how to do it (in part by necessity for my research).  But again, it was my parents who influenced that because they gave me the confidence to do so. 

 
 
 
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Posted On Oct 07, 2008
I went to public school, and almost everything they taught there beyond math (I learned to read and write at home) was basically worthless, biased or wrong. I wouldn't want my child to learn any of these skills there.


BeeGirl
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Posted On Oct 07, 2008
and so homeschooling is becoming illegal...

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/03/07/MNJDVF0F1.DTL

"A primary purpose of the educational system is to train school
children in good citizenship, patriotism and loyalty to the state and
the nation as a means of protecting the public welfare," the judge
wrote.


BeeGirl
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Posted On Oct 08, 2008
Remember the 'cooperation' column on report cards? It was next to 'effort' and got marked with either E, S or U for excellent, satisfactory and unsatisfactory.


stoic
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Posted On Oct 09, 2008
some more things not taught in school...

http://www.lewrockwell.com/dilorenzo/dilorenzo59.html

 
 
 
 
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