How to Overcome Fear and Negativity Almost Instantly

"Your habitual vocabulary also has a subtle but powerful ability to condition your mental system." This is so true! A few years ago, I had to cross a very wide multi-lane highway at a traffic light a couple times a week to get to a bus stop. I also had to contend with traffic coming around a corner, and rarely if ever made it all the way across in the time one green light afforded me. (There's an island in the middle.)  

Often, while waiting to get across, or while actually crossing, I'd see several buses that would have taken me to my destination. I used to think, without fail, "There goes my bus!" Then I realized that this was a little negative stressor in my life that I'd be better off without, so I revised my internal dialogue to answer, "No, that isn't my bus, because if it were my bus, I'd be on it!" It seems ultra simple, and it is, but it really worked by taking the negativity out of what had become a small, almost daily disappointment.

I also used to call the times I spent hours in the kitchen preparing several days' worth of food my "kitchen marathon." To some people, that might be a happy term, but to me, "marathon" doesn't bring up happy thoughts; it just evokes thoughts of almost superhuman effort, intense heat, and pain. So I decided to call it my "kitchen medley" instead. Thinking about it with a musical term gave it a much happier tint, and my attitude while doing it improved accordingly.

Now I rarely have the, "There goes my bus!" moment, but if I do, the answer's still ready.

Maybe some people are going to think of the internal dialogue aspect of this as strange, but I think we all use what some call "self-talk", and identifying negative self-talk habits or patterns, and then changing them in a simple way, can make a very big difference in how we feel.

I like the idea of doing first things first and second things not at all.

My current favorite quote to remember is "Do not make someone a priority, when that someone considers you only to be an option."  

I agree. Confronting toxic people and being ready and willing to sever the ties with them is liberating. It's like sunbeams breaking through stormy clouds.

Me too.

You might add to The Power of Now his books A New Earth and Stillness Speaks. Plus, one of the really helpful books from the same publisher, Namaste Publishing, is Michael Brown's The Presence Process, along with his shorter book Alchemy of the Heart. Unless we address the emotional issues that underlie our thinking, no amount of affirmation is going to bring about fundamental change. That's what The Presence Process does.

Yes, I have to agree, gratitude and living in the present moment - the Now can bring about profound change along with relinquishing one's ego.    

Another good and helpful book is by author Louise L Hay - "You Can Heal Your Life".  It delves into how thoughts affect ones health and happiness and offers practical ways to change those thoughts and effectively change ones life on every level.

What you think about you bring about.

I don't understand why you got dinged, awalterhoefer. I understand your dilemma, and I think it's good that you brought it up. And I don't think that that drive to change what is unsatisfactory is a bad thing at all, nor do I think it has to negate the benefits of being grateful. Maybe you could try being grateful that you recognized the need for change, and that you have the drive and talent to do something about it!

awalterhoefer:  You can have both a positive attitude about life and use anger to propel you to make positive changes.  Truly being in touch with all of our feelings is healthy and lets us know "where we are".  Feeling through our emotions and looking for the most positive, productive way to deal with problems, helps propel us to take positive actions. We can do this while being grateful for the good things.

My husband has a positive attitude about life, and when he gets angry about something he works through his anger (often by talking about it) and comes up with positive, productive solutions.  Over the years, I've seen anger motivate him to accomplish many things.

Most of us have unhappy, fearsome, disorganized thoughts.  They tromp thru our brains if you let them.  Some people call this your "ego" or whatever.  It does not really matter.  The point is,you CAN train your brain.  You CAN rewire your brain.

A great study done some years ago was on Buddist Monks.  A researcher took a group of novices coming into the temple group and studied their brain waves and thoughts.  Most had some experience with Buddist meditations/affirmations.  What he found out was they had normal brain activity, with brain waves in the pleasurable and unpleasurable portions of their brains (one portion makes you feed good when active--hope, happiness, laughter, peace, etc. while the other is activated when you are engaged in fear, unhappy thoughts, violence, death, grief, etc.)  When the initiates went to meditate, their brains would eventually be flooded in the positive thought region after a period of time, 15 to 20 min.  BUT the experienced older monks could achieve this within seconds.

One month later, the researcher again studied the noviates and they were consistently activating the "good though" portion of their brain within minutes.

Further to the study was imaging of the brain, which showed their brains had marked development in the "good thought" portion.

This was a study published in the Wall Street Journal.  The monks were using traditional "good though" meditation of "I can help others, I will be a blessing to the world, etc."  Most monks would meditate for several hours per day to "train their brains"--up to 5 or 6 hours per day were spent in meditation before they would go out into the world.

I have had great results with Holosync from www.centerpointe.com  This is a simple and fast (relatively speaking) way to acheive the results of meditation to "rewire the brain".  It has helped me deal with stress and have a much happier life.

Absolutely!

Years ago, I experienced the complete cessation of an advancing pain (which started on my upper left side, had reached my left breast, and was continuing to advance) when I read the following quotation and began to thank God for every 'tiny' positive thing I saw, heard, or experienced, like seeing a flower in someone's yard while walking through a residential area: "Nine-tenths of our unhappiness is pure selfishness, and is an insult cast into the face of God."

I may get dings for this, but when I read that, it absolutely hit me between the eyes. I had real reasons for experiencing sadness at that time of my life, but applying that wisdom caused that physical pain to go away and never ever return.

I grew up in the south where females were expected to have a ready smile. I was constantly told to smile even when it was the last thing I wanted to do. I craved being alone so I could relax and be myself. When I finally got to the point in life where I was no longer willing to fake smiles to please other people (this took decades) that's when I felt like genuinely smiling. I've become happily irreverent.

How to tell a real smile from a phony one: look at the eyes. The eyes crinkle up in a genuine smile. In a fake smile, only the mouth changes; the eyes remain uninvolved. A good place to test this is the photos of authors on the dust jackets of books. Most of the time they are smiling only for the camera, and it shows.

Well that was kind of a waste of bandwidth.

I love the edit button. Maybe you could give it a try.

Well, this did give me a laugh!

Thanks for this info, shall try it!

I'm probably dim but I don't get the pinkie thing.

Onur, powdered or pulverized and with added anti caking agents (declared or not) blocks the uptake of sulfur in mice and men, silicon dioxide 100%.  The World Society of Food Additives in the Hague, 1957

Our Suggestion is increase the amount of MSM to one tablespoon twice a day and see what you experience.  We have made this recommendation to the many who were taking MSM when they contacted the Study.  None of our Study members have returned to the MSN they were taken before.  What they report is cellular regeneration, they use other words but when all of the symptoms of our "modern diseases" go away.   The the effects of packaging and processing render MSM incapable of transporting oxygen across the cell membrane, bound sulfur can not be utilized by the body human. The other question we ask is why did you purchase MSM, to resolve what malady?

What we have found is 100% of those responding demonstrate sulfur deficiency by responding to the reintroduction of bio available sulfur.  In 12 years we have refunded the monies to purchase sulfur required for the Study, only five times, two have returned to consuming sulfur because they noticed the changes once they stopped.  No pain meds, no meds advertised by pHarma, NONE. We have found no commercially available MSM

to do the same.  But resolution of scar tissue has only be seen with Organic Sulfur and is only mentioned in the pre 1975 literature, "sulfur" is seldom seen if ever in the peer reviewed journals of science and medicine,

the fourth most needed mineral gone missing, Curious?  The power of pHarma, they publish the journals and have no desire that any of us should become aware of the broken sulfur cycle.

Thank you for you comments, now what will you do?

the Director

we have 90,000 Study participants in 29 countries

Highlander11 I don't get it either, the index finger is the anger digit. Sometimes even researcher get cute.

This isn't a theological discussion nor a evangelical website.

Ummm . . . what do you mean???

Quit complaining and download the FREE EFT manual and use the technique to get over this issue.

Maybe he's got a point.  I write patents for a living and they all have 500 word abstracts on the cover.  I think that research papers also use abstracts.

But I personally love the details in your articles and I always seem to learn something from the article itself combined with the comments section.  There are always so many wonderful healers that hang out here.

Your site has a good aura.  Well,except for the negs.  If you can't eliminate them, why not limit them to a maximum amount, say 5.  5 should be enough to send a message that maybe they need to rethink what has been written.  Also, I think negs should be removable.  Maybe the poster can edit his message or people can rethink their position.

Ha ha Dr M..You gave me my first "real laugh"of the day with your remark..Thanks!

I've tried the EFT methods, simply dont work for me...feels sorta good i guess, ive read the free manuals, ect. maybe its the same reason meditation makes me feel anxious rather than relaxed...i use other methods, such as exercise, they work...im not that stressed anyway so its not a big problem...but just to say this EFT works like a miracle for everyone, well thats not gonna happen...i know, i dont get it, but i bet lots of people dont...

@iggystooge   It is common for EFT not to work for those using it on themselves. As I say in the article you need to see a PROFESSIONAL who is trained in the fine details. In my experience EFT has benefit well over 95% of the time if you have an expert you are working with.