Four Words That Can Make You Suspicious of Yourself When You Say Them
May 17, 2011
article on Raptitude lists four words that might raise a red flag
when you catch yourself saying them. While they are not "bad"
words, they do lend themselves to a certain kind of self-deception.
you use the word "wish" when you've decided you don't like
something the way it is, but you're not actually doing anything
about it? Wishing may give you a little relief from a reality you
don't want to deal with, but it sure doesn't move things along.
you insert the word "try" into a sentence, does that mean you're
not actually willing to take on the responsibility of promising to do
something? It's the ultimate catch-all qualifier for anyone looking
to commit absolutely nothing to a particular effort.
wish, should can be used as a way of placing responsibility for your
quality of life on other people, or on the universe at large. Most
"shoulds" are really just desperate pleas for your moment to be
less troublesome to you.
among reasonable people, deserve gets out of hand quickly. Deserve is
really just a more specific type of should -- one which refers to
what fates people ought to experience. Remember that most violence is
rationalized with "deserve."