Dr. Mercola July 08 2008 41,543 views
Nancie,
I also have 5 kids and as a word of encouragement, it gets easier as they get older! All of that time & effort you're spending now, teaching them to be organized, prepared, ect. will likely become the way they choose to lead their lives also. Of course, there may be straying from your modeling, but eventually they'll probably go back to the way mom did it, it's a comfortable reminder that good things are those ways that worked in our families. Good for you for taking such excellent time with your children, enjoy the missing shoes, socks, and crazy things. It sounds like you also bring laughter into your home and a sense of "going with the flow", making the best of the funny things that inevitably happen. I enjoyed your post!
Not always... I have Aspergers and a part of that for me means I have pretty much zero concept of time. I'm forever late, and no matter how hard I try to be on time to meetings and to work and to everything else I'll always be five to ten minutes behind schedule - I literally just cannot get my head around it. I can easily just sit and stare into space for a few minutes without realising it and voom, there goes another five minutes. I'll plan to leave early, I'll have everything ready the night before and organised and ready because I know how late I always am, but no matter what I do it never has much impact. People just think "Oh that's just Belle...", little do they know...!!
I spend my life trying to be on time, and even more time being late. I'm not making a statement or being disrespectful, I just cannot for the life of me do it! But you've inspired me to try and be a minute earlier than usual every day this week, and perhaps a minute earlier than that the next. ;)
I believe in the 'give and take'.
I am mostly on time and expect others to do the same.
My dentist is always on time.
My time is valuable-at least to me.
But when my clinic was CRONICALLY over 45 min late, I switched. I can give a little but when I have an early apointment and you are OVERBOOKED due to poor management(more people in, more$$), I will walk. There are several times that I checked in and after 45min of waiting-- left. I figure that if the doctor is that far behind, they could use some cancellations!!
I was chronically late for my first 30 years. Then I discovered the reason. If I arrive early or someone else is late, I feel very anxious. I now carry a book every place I go and it keeps me anxiety-free. It's also great to have a book if you have to wait a long time at a doctor's appointment or if the car breaks down.
I just wanted to make a statement that arriving late is NOT discourteous in every culture in the world. Sure, westerners might feel that chronic lateness is rude, but I have lived in places where I have waited two hours for someone to show up, and it was not meant to be rude at all.
In one country I lived in, guests show up to their homes unexpected every single day at varying times. Therefore, they usually do not plan things days in advance. So then if I bring my western culture into the mix and try to plan a get together a few days in advance, then they will most likely be late because of guests who showed up uninvited at the same time they should be leaving to meet me. :)
This is just one of many possible scenarios that explain why people may be late in other cultures. Additionally, many cultures do not have a slave relationship to the clock. Life is more fluid and not set in stone. :) It may drive westerners crazy, or then again, we can embrace it as a unique color in the human cultural tapestry.
Not everybody is good with planning ahead. My husband does it effortlessly (left brain dominant) and I sometimes have to work on my adrenalin levels to get things done, being more right brain dominant. That is also stressfull to me and I sometimes envy people who can be so in tune with the clock, but then again ..... Let each one take life in his/her own stride. Mine is at times slow and at times fast, but I feel more in tune with myself when there is no time constraint and deadlines. I do not want to judge other people according to their time management and punctuality. Give each other a bit of space and respect to do it their own authentic way as long as each one is a responsible citizen....slow down........slow food..........slow eating............slow love .....................slow to judge......................slow tortoise..................
Dr M could publish an article on which hand to use to pick your nose and there'd be a page full of comments from some of you people who "don't have enough time"
I think a lot of people have way too much time on their hands...they just don't know how to use it!
Energymaster, I make time to pick my nose for 12 seconds every morning when I wake up. Prioritizing is the key to getting things done!
Yeah, but which hand do you use?